We are beautiful, smart, funny, kind, unique. And we are worthy of love and affection. We are just enough! AMEN!
As I was having a very emotional moment today. I happened to bother my fairy God Mother, Ate Patmei Ruivivar and was venting out. Then inner peace and at the same time there was the inner “light bulb” moment. I wanted to share to everyone one of the memorable and best advice I have ever encountered in my existence.
“When your soul is crying out. Listen to it. Stop and reflect. Surround yourself with people who love you and give you good energies. There is a time to replenish, recharge, and refresh! You don’t need the money. God will always provide. The important thing is finding your self, your center, the meaning of your life, your bliss. Then all will just fall into place.
It will get better. Just be patient and work on yourself.
Don’t measure your worth or success based on what mainstream society says. It is an illusion that is oftentimes the root of our unhappiness. March to the beat of your own drum.
We have our own unique journey. It is foolish to copy other people’s definitions and plans because you are not like other people. You are YOU! And your most important task in life is to figure out your authentic self and live your best according to what is true to you.”
Trust God. God is performing little miracles everyday.
We are beautiful, smart, funny, kind, unique. And we are worthy of love and affection. We are just enough! AMEN!
For those who have fallen, or have yet to fall.
EFFORT IS ALSO TO BE CELEBRATED, NOT JUST OUTCOME. THIS IS TOO INSPIRING NOT TO SHARE!
If you love someone, ask him for nothing. Don’t hold him from his destiny. Don’t keep him from going off in search of his own answers. Don’t ask him for commitment. You will know commitment is real when it is something given willingly, and not as something obligatory. Don’t ask him for promises. If you are patient, if you have faith, you will know in your heart when the right time for promises has come. And when that time arrives, then you will see that you have both lost nothing by setting each other free, and have instead gained a richer, fuller life, a wealth of experiences, and a stronger certainty of your desires.
But should he not return to you, then life hasn’t cheated you because no promises were broken. Your bitterness will not last long, and you will feel thankful and blessed that at the very least, this beautiful soul has colored your life, that knowing him has already made life infinitely more meaningful. By setting a person a free, you run a risk of him not returning. But always remember that you found him beautiful precisely because he was free. People are like sunlight. You can feel their warmth, and their glow, but you can’t hold them in your hand and keep them with you forever. People choose to stay. But a choice is made more meaningful when it is made despite so many other options.
When you stop chasing the wrong things you give
the right things a chance to catch you.
As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” Nothing could be closer to the truth. But before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back.
Here are some ideas to get you started:
Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth. And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.
Stop running from your problems. – Face them head on. No, it won’t be easy. There is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them. We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems. That’s not how we’re made. In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall. Because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time. This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.
Stop lying to yourself. – You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself. Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves. Read The Road Less Traveled.
Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. – The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too. Yes, help others; but help yourself too. If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.
Stop trying to be someone you’re not. – One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like everyone else. Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you. Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.
Stop trying to hold onto the past. – You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.
Stop being scared to make a mistake. – Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing. Every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success. You end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.
Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. – We may love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us. We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future. Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
Stop trying to buy happiness. – Many of the things we desire are expensive. But the truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and working on our passions.
Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness. – If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either. You have to create stability in your own life first before you can share it with someone else. Read Stumbling on Happiness.
Stop being idle. – Don’t think too much or you’ll create a problem that wasn’t even there in the first place. Evaluate situations and take decisive action. You cannot change what you refuse to confront. Making progress involves risk. Period! You can’t make it to second base with your foot on first.
Stop thinking you’re not ready. – Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises. Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.
Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons. – Relationships must be chosen wisely. It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company. There’s no need to rush. If something is meant to be, it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.
Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work. – In life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet. Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you. But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.
Stop trying to compete against everyone else. – Don’t worry about what others doing better than you. Concentrate on beating your own records every day. Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.
Stop being jealous of others. – Jealousy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own. Ask yourself this: “What’s something I have that everyone wants?”
Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. – Life’s curveballs are thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a direction that is meant for you. You may not see or understand everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough. But reflect back on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past. You’ll often see that eventually they led you to a better place, person, state of mind, or situation. So smile! Let everyone know that today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be
Stop holding grudges. – Don’t live your life with hate in your heart. You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate. Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.” It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.” Forgiveness is the answer… let go, find peace, liberate yourself! And remember, forgiveness is not just for other people, it’s for you too. If you must, forgive yourself, move on and try to do better next time.
Stop letting others bring you down to their level. – Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.
Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others. – Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it anyway. Just do what you know in your heart is right.
Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break. – The time to take a deep breath is when you don’t have time for it. If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting. Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.
Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments. – Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things. The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.
Stop trying to make things perfect. – The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done. Read Getting Things Done.
Stop following the path of least resistance. – Life is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something worthwhile. Don’t take the easy way out. Do something extraordinary.
Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t. – It’s okay to fall apart for a little while. You don’t always have to pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that everything is going well. You shouldn’t be concerned with what other people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed your tears. The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.
Stop blaming others for your troubles. – The extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to which you take responsibility for your life. When you blame others for what you’re going through, you deny responsibility – you give others power over that part of your life.
Stop trying to be everything to everyone. – Doing so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out. But making one person smile CAN change the world. Maybe not the whole world, but their world. So narrow your focus.
Stop worrying so much. – Worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its joy. One way to check if something is worth mulling over is to ask yourself this question: “Will this matter in one year’s time? Three years? Five years?” If not, then it’s not worth worrying about.
Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen. – Focus on what you do want to happen. Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story. If you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right.
Stop being ungrateful. – No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life. Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs. Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing.
Indeed, the Uni-verse shakes us to awaken us. Here are five recommendations for how YOU can transform your pain and setbacks into awakening:
1. Instead of Asking, “Why Did This Happen to Me?” Ask, “What Can I Learn from This?”
Asking WHY is one of the most toxic questions we can ever ask. Asking WHY an event happened “to you” takes away your power. When we remember that everything in the Uni-verse is happening “for us” and not “to us”, we can then start to see the lesson in the pain and begin to take our power back. By focusing on what you’ve learned, you take the empowered point of view and know that once you learn from a situation, you can do better next time.
2. Use Negative Emotions As Fuel for Positive Growth!
When things don’t go “our way,” we can feel super negative emotions, especially when the environment and people around us don’t seem to be supporting our happiness; it’s super easy to get into a low state of mind. BUT anger, resentment, frustration, all those emotions CAN be used for good. Emotions fuel us to take action. As we step into the New Year, let us use any negative emotions as fuel to make positive change. So instead of using those negative emotions for destructive behavior, use them in a way that moves your life forward!
3. Know That a Delay Is Not a Denial!
In a world where tweets travel faster than earthquakes and people can Skype™ across the planet for free, technology and life are speeding up. But as we begin to walk a spiritual path, it’s vital to know that your soul’s evolution isn’t on the instant-gratification trajectory. In between where you are and the desired outcome of your life is a path of growth and purification. The upset, the rejection, the bad news, the setback—all these things are not denials. They have been sent to us to make us stronger, to teach us patience and to give us a mind-set of humility and appreciation so that when we finally achieve our goals, we are fulfilled within as well. Life isn’t about making your goals happen; the real essence of life is about who YOU BECOME as a result of achieving your goals. The things your soul desires, the things your heart is yearning for, don’t come as easily as a tweet, a text or a Skype chat. You can’t manifest a masterpiece of a life by only answering a few Craigslist help-wanted ads. Take it slow and you’ll get there on time!
4. The Only Real Tragedy Is Staying Stuck
A moment of tragedy can happen and does happen to us, but the real tragedy isn’t what happened; the real tragedy is getting stuck in what happened and choosing to give up on life. Life, my friends, is for the living—we are here to shine, to give our gifts and to be the presence of love on the planet. We are not defined by what happens to us; we are defined by what we DO about what happens to us. Waking up means knowing that you have the power to change your life by changing the meaning that you give the event of your life and then ACTING on it every day!
5. Remember That Letting Go Is the Best Way to Hold On
Everyone gets messed up by what happens to them. The question is, for how long? The past is over. The future is not yet written. But the past isn’t really over until we stop bringing it into the present. Focusing on, staying stuck in and not letting go of past events does NOTHING to serve you in this present and makes creating a compelling future almost impossible. When we let go and remain detached from the past, we free ourselves up to create an even better future. One reason many people hold on to past hurts is because the familiarity of the old wound is much better than opening up and risking being hurt all over again by a new wound. But the truth is that if we truly want love and awakening in our lives, we must remain open. And when we remain open, we are open to both the love and the pain. But if we remain open, we can use the pain of the past as a way to guide us toward learning more about ourselves and realizing that the spiritual path is one of turning pain into wisdom. Knowing this helps us remain detached from the past, actually grateful for what happened to us. If you want space in your life for something new, then it’s time to let go—now.
It’s been such a pleasure writing this blog post for Oprah.com! It’s a dream come true, and I hope my words comfort you. I share them with you, not from a place of superiority, but from a place of holy cow! I’ve been there, and I’m still there—going through all these feelings, emotions and lessons.
As the amazing film I Am says, “We are all connected.” So my lessons are yours, and your lessons are mine, and we are here to learn, to grow and to share together. It has been such an honor to share with you today. Please let me know how the film and this post have touched you by leaving a comment down below.
Until next time, I’m sending you some daily love!
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Mastin Kipp is the CEO & Founder of TheDailyLove.com, a pop culture blog that inspires almost 600,000 people a day! To get Mastin’s daily dose of love please visit www.TheDailyLove.com or visit him on Twitter and Facebook.